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thedoctor-smith:

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@kauhalee said: 

.. it’s all about how you take it. You can be triggered by it because of your own insecurities or you can love it because of your own insecurities. There are 2 sides to the coin and promoting censorship of art because of how it makes you feel is about the most hypocritical thing anyone who is not a straight white male can do. Simply put, those who wish not see, need not look. But I don’t want my children growing up in a world, where they don’t have the option.

I find g!p gratifying

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It’s literally not all about how a person “takes it”. It has nothing to do with triggering (although those are valid experiences), and everything to do with the way the trope reproduces and directs sexual violence against trans women, deeply fetishizes and dehumanizes us categorically, and erases our lived experiences and the realities of our bodies in ways that render us vulnerable and conditionally worthy of desire and love.

So, uh, yeah. It’s got nothing to do with whether it gives an individual person the warm fuzzies. 

And I’m not promoting censorship, since I can’t censor anyone. I’m promoting that people recognize the harm their works do and find it in their heart to weight the wellbeing of trans women over the orgasms they get off our backs.

“Don’t Like Don’t Read” is a highly privileged and ignorant stance to take in fandom

If you want to understand more, read this, this, this, or the other posts on my education page on g!p

Because you may find g!p gratifying, but it’s literally deeply cissexist, transmisogynistic, trans-fetishistic, and reproduces a whole host of stigmas and taboos about trans women that direct real physical sexual violence against us and promotes our exclusion from women’s spaces, wlw spaces, lesbian spaces, often while casting us as dangerous male predators. Those are the facts, regardless of how you, I, or anyone else feels.

“Don’t Like Don’t Read” is a highly privileged and ignorant stance to take in fandom

In a time when women are standing up to male violence and saying ‘no more,’ trans women are still being left out and here, ‘censorship’ is the excuse – even though there is no call for censorship, only understanding that will lead to better choices that do not harm others.  

I remember when Roman Polanski was defended by Hollywood actors and actresses saying that his raping of a child should be forgiven because he was a ‘great artist’ and how his working life should continue.  Same for Woody Allen.  

Now that the tides have turned, sympathy for these ‘great artists’ has eroded – we recognise the harm done, the harm that continues, when we allow these men to be given power and feted.  Dylan Farrow’s story of the ongoing hurt and harm of watching Woody Allen escape justice, the harm he did to her family, while he kept working, kept receiving awards – can you see some parallels here?  

No one calls for ‘censorship’ of a ‘great artist.’  It’s the human equation that is being left out.  The human cost of allowing oppressors to maintain status quo – one that only benefits a few. Will people throw away ‘Chinatown’ or ‘Stardust Memories’ as crap because the men who made them are rubbish?  

How many films or books created by ‘great artists’ featured content that we now consider backward, harmful, ignorant, sexist, racist – and those books and films still exist? No one ripped them off the shelves (that’s something fascists and Nazis do).  I find the 50 Shades books to not only be terrible, but terrible influences and the woman who wrote them is another rubbish human being who benefited enormously from spreading wrongful, harmful text – that was openly derided far and wide. Did anyone get offended and call it ‘censorship’ to point out her work was harmful?  I’d never call for anyone’s works to be banned – but we do seek to educate others on their content, don’t we?  How many posts have you seen over the years of  readers declaring 50 Shades is harmful? Is it a censorship issue or education? 

But trans women point out g!p is harmful and support disappears (insert gif of Mariah Carey in sunglasses, unable to read suddenly).  

How much g!p fiction mirrors 50 Shades?  

It’s time to to allow those they have harmed to be free from that harm and to know we will progress in better ways. Society either improves and becomes genuinely inclusive and equal – or it continues to fall apart, thanks to selfishness and greed.  

If trans women are shouting what is harmful to them and you are not listening, take some stock of the world around you. Look at all the other women who weren’t listened to when they told the world they were harmed. Look at all the other women who were too terrified to come forward, who were told they were asking for it, who were told it was all their fault it happened.  

Instead of looking at trans women as something separate, maybe we could start seeing them as women who are pointing out the harm being done to them and stand with them. 

Would that be gratifying? 

I’ve pointed out before, in the Clexa fandom, fans stood up to a man who did them harm. We pointed out a HARMFUL TROPE that should not be used – no one called for ‘censorship.’  We asked straight content creators to be better allies, to be better educated and not perpetuate the writing of harmful content. It’s about representation.  

Trans women are usually the last ones who receive any kind of support. Is ‘time’s up’ inclusive? Is ‘me too?’  I believe them when they tell me someone is hurting them.  I believe you, I’m listening, I hope to be a better ally.  

It means a lot to come back on tumblr tonight and have read that 🙂