growing up autistic / growing up gaslit

theoriginalmkp:

I.

this is the first lesson you learn:
you are always wrong.

there is no electric hum buzzing through the air.
there is no stinging bite to the sweetness of the mango.
there is no bitter metallic tang to the water.

there is no cruelty in their laughter, no ambiguity in the instructions, no reason to be upset.
there is no bitter aftertaste to your sweet tea, nothing scratchy about your blanket.

the lamps glow steadily. they do not falter.

II.

this is the second lesson you learn:
you are never right.

you are childish, gullible, overly prone to tears.
you are pedantic, combative, deliberately obtuse.
you are lazy, unreliable, never on time.

you’re always making up excuses, rudely interrupting, stepping on people’s shoes.
you’re always trying to get attention, never thinking about anyone else, selfish through and through.

it’s you that’s the problem. the lamps are fine.

III.

this is the third lesson you learn:
you must always give in.

mother knows best. father knows best.
doctor knows best. teacher knows best.
this is the proper path. do not go astray.

listen to your elders, respect your betters, accept what’s given to you as your due.
bow to the wisdom of experience, the education of the professional, the clarity of an external point of view.

what do you know about lamps, anyway?

Painful and accurate, even long since grown up.

Hans Asperger helped the Nazi’s kill autistic children.

queeranarchism:

A new study has shed more light on the revelations that Hans Asperger,
the Austrian pediatrician for whom a form of autism is named, had
collaborated with the Nazis and actively assisted in the killing of
disabled children.

Published on Wednesday in the journal Molecular Autism
by the medical historian Herwig Czech, the report relies on eight years
of research that included the examination of previously unseen Nazi-era
documents.

The
study concludes that though Dr. Asperger was not a member of the Nazi
Party, he had participated in the Third Reich’s child-euthanasia
program, which aimed to establish a “pure” society by eliminating those
deemed a “burden.”

Dr.
Asperger was previously thought to have opposed national socialism and to have 
defended

his patients against Nazi “euthanasia”. That story ‘needs to be revised in light of the evidence’, the study revealed. Hans Asperger diagnosed children with ‘autistic psychopathy’ and referred them to the notorious Am Spiegelgrund
clinic in Vienna, where 800 children were murdered
by use of drugs of gas from 1940 to 1945.

Be advised that there is ableism in the second part of source article: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/04/19/world/europe/hans-asperger-nazis.html

The chapter ‘conclusions’ in the study itself is not as complicated to read as you’d expect from a scientific work and can be found here: https://molecularautism.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s13229-018-0208-6#Sec12

autasticanna:

“uwu but if there was a cure for autism nobody would force you to-

Bullshit. Yes the fuck they would.

Want to get hired? Oh, you have autism? Well, we can’t hire you unless you get cured.

Want to get paid? Oh, we’re legally allowed to pay you less because you’re autistic. We can pay you a reasonable amount when you get cured!

Need accommodations? Why don’t you just get cured instead? 

You know, you wouldn’t need all this therapy and assistance if you just got cured. You should just get cured!

We don’t need special care programs for autism! There’s a cure available! Just get it!

This isn’t covered by your healthcare because autism is a pre-existing condition, sorry!

My child was autistic and we didn’t want him to be, so we cured him! He didn’t want or ask for it, but we did! 

Look, autism can’t be cured. But if it could, that cure would would absolutely not be a choice. It would just be disguised as optional. 

Imagine someone telling you there is a cure for being you. 

Autistic Voices: A Masterpost

fidgetcubist:

Here is a list of resources about autism, with a focus on actually autistic voices, divided by topic. You will find articles, websites, videos, Youtube channels, etc., most of them created by autistic people. If there are resources you would like to contribute to this post, or if you have other suggestions, don’t hesitate to let me know.


What is autism?

Nick Walker: What is autism?

Autistic Self Advocacy Network: About Autism

Autisticality: Inclusive autistic traits

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic: What is Autism?

Neurodiversity

Identity-First Autistic: The Neurodiversity Paradigm

Nick Walker: Neurodiversity: some basic terms and definitions

Nick Walker: The Neurodiversity Paradigm and the Path of Self-Liberation

Nick Walker: Throw Away the Master’s Tools: Liberating Ourselves from the Pathology Paradigm

Elisabeth Wiklander: Neurodiversity — the key that unlocked my world

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic: What is Neurodiversity

Identity-first language vs person-first language

Autistic Self Advocacy Network: Identity-First Language

Nathan Selove: Autism ACTUALLY Speaking: Person First Language

Autistic Hoya: The Significance of Semantics: Person-First Language: Why It Matters

Social model of disability vs medical model of disability

Identity-First Autistic: Understanding Disability Models

Autistic Hoya: You are not a burden.

Nathan Selove: Autism ACTUALLY Speaking: Models of Disability Discourse

Nathan Selove: Creating A Social Model of Autism

Ari Ne’eman at Emory University: Autism and the Disability Community: The Politics of Neurodiversity, Causation and Cure

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #16: Is Autism a Disability?

Functioning labels

Identity-First Autistic: Identity-First Autistic’s stance on ‘functioning labels’

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic: What about Functioning Labels? 

autisticliving: What’s Wrong with Functioning Labels? A Masterpost.

Nathan Selove: Autistic ACTUALLY Speaking: High Functioning versus Low Functioning

AUTISTIC WEREWOLF: WHY LABELS EXPECIALLY HIGH & LOW FUNCTIONING AUTISM IS ARE A LOAD OF CRAP! (cw: use of the R-word)

Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism: The Problems with Functioning Labels

Autistic women

Reese Piper: ‘I Thought I Was Lazy’: The Invisible Day-To-Day Struggle For Autistic Women

Fabienne Cazalis: The women who don’t know they’re autistic

Aspergers from the Inside: Female Diagnosis and Self-Advocacy with Geraldine Robertson

Purple Ella: DIFFERENCES AUTISTIC BOYS AND GIRLS

Seventh Voice: The Gas-lighting of Women and Girls on the Autism Spectrum

 
Suicide

AutisticNomad: Speaking to Suicidal Autistics

Science Daily: Coventry University: People with Autism at Greater Risk of Attempting Suicide

Dan Jones: Autism: Diagnosis Saved My Life

Empathy

Rebecca Brewer and Jennifer Murphy for Spectrum News: People with autism can read emotions, feel empathy

Nathan Selove: Autism ACTUALLY Speaking: Empathy

Luna Lindsey: Double-Standards: The Irony of Empathy and Autism

Intersectional Neurodiversity: New Research Suggests Social Issues Are Down to Neurotypicals More than Autistics

Self-advocacy

Nathan Selove: Autism ACTUALLY Speaking: Self Advocacy

Amythest Schaber: Autistics Speaking: Self-Advocacy in a Culture of Cure

Autistic Hoya: What is Self-Advocacy?


Executive function

Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism: Executive Functioning Problems: A Frustrating Aspect of Being Autistic

Reese Piper: ‘I Thought I Was Lazy’: The Invisible Day-To-Day Struggle For Autistic Women

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #25: What is Executive Functioning?

Aspergers from the Inside: Executive Function (a response to Ask an Autistic)

Purple Ella: AUTISM AND EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING

Special interests

Musings of an Aspie: What’s So Special About a Special Interest?

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #13 – What are Special Interests?

Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism: Autism and Intense Interests: Why We Love What We Love and Why It Should Matter to You

Stimming

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #1 – What is Stimming?

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic: Living Atypically – Self-Injurious Stims

The Artism Spectrum: Stimming 101, or: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Stim

The Artism Spectrum: The Dark Side of the Stim: Self-injury and Destructive Habits

Meltdowns

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #15 – What are Autistic Meltdowns?

Unstrange Minds: The Protective Gift of Meltdowns

Purple Ella: DEALING WITH MELTDOWNS

Shutdowns

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #20 – What are Autistic Shutdowns?

Unstrange Mind: Autistic Shutdown Alters Brain Function


Passing

AUTISTIC WEREWOLF: ANOTHER WAY AUTISTIC WEREWOLVES HIDE IN THIS NEUROTYPICAL WORLD!

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #2 – What is Passing?

Autistic burnout

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #3 – What is Autistic Burnout?

Musings of an Aspie: Autistic Regression and Fluid Adaptation

Autisticality: Burnout

Autism Information Library: “Help! I seem to be Getting More Autistic!”

Inertia

Autisticality: Inertia

Divergent Minds: A Look at Autistic Inertia

Alexithymia

Unstrange Mind: Alexithymia: I Don’t Know How I Feel

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #27: What is Alexithymia?


What not to say to an autistic person

Autistic Hoya: 15 Things You Should Never Say To An Autistic

Radical Neurodivergence Speaking: What to say, and not to say, to an autistic adult

Nathan Selove: Top 5 Well Meaning Things People Should Stop Saying to Autistics

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #12 – What Shouldn’t I Say to Autistic People?

StimNation: S#!T Ignorant People Say to Autistics

Actually Autistic: 10 Things Not To Say To Autistic People

BBC Three: Things Not To Say To An Autistic Person


Non-speaking autistic voices

Amy Sequenzia: Non-speaking, “low-functioning”

Mel Baggs: In My Language

Mel Baggs: Don’t ever assume autism researchers know what they’re doing

Sue Rubin’s website

Autism $peaks/Light It Up Blue/Puzzle Piece

The Caffeinated Autistic: New Autism Speaks Masterpost (Updated 4/4/17)

The Caffeinated Autistic: Autism Speaks *still* does not speak for me

Autistic Anthro: Enough with the Puzzle Pieces

Autistic Anthro: Autism Awareness Month

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #6 – What’s Wrong With Autism Speaks

Nathan Selove: Autism ACTUALLY Speaking: Lighting Up Blue

John Elder Robinson: I Resign My Roles at Autism Speaks

Autistic Hoya: Co-Opting the Movement: Autism Speaks, John Elder Robinson, and Complicity in Oppression

Autistic Hoya: Responding to Autism Speaks


When autism parents don’t listen

Jim Sinclair: Don’t Mourn For Us

Autistic Hoya: They keep publishing these violent articles

Autistic Hoya: Why we must #BoycottToSiri / An open letter to Judith Newman

Amythest Schaber: #BoycottToSiri

Susie Rodarme: An Open Letter to HarperCollins about TO SIRI WITH LOVE

Kaelan Rhywiol: Why I Believe ‘To Siri With Love’ By Judith Newman Is A Book That Does Incredible Damage To The Autistic Community

Aaron Kappel: When You’re Autistic, Abuse Is Considered Love

Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism: Autism Uncensored: A Dangerous and Spirit-Crushing Book


Service dogs and autism

Nathan Selove: Service Dog Tales


In French

Super Pépette – Julie Dachez’s Youtube channel

La Fille Pas Sympa Julia March’s blog

A Q&A about autism with Steve Silberman, author of NeuroTribes

As a society, the history of autism makes clear that the notion that there is one best way to learn, one best way to experience the world, and one best way to be human, is bunk. That belief prevailed through most of the 20th Century, when psychiatrists elevated themselves into a position akin to secular priests. But it’s based on a false model of how human brains work, and it ends up stigmatizing and marginalizing people who have tremendous gifts to offer society. 

Think about it: why would the community of human minds be less diverse than, say, a rainforest? But it isn’t. We’re part of the natural world, and nature thrives by experimenting, by fostering the development of many different types of individuals. In a rainforest, this wild riot of variety and difference makes communities of plants and animals more resilient in the face of changing conditions. As we face the challenges of the 21st Century — which include a rapidly changing global climate! — we will need many different types of minds working together. As a teacher, you’re helping to build the foundation on which the fate of humanity may depend.

A Q&A about autism with Steve Silberman, author of NeuroTribes