a lot of young teen lesbians on tumblr r aligning with the terf ideology without knowing properly what it stands for. so as an Older Lesbian with some 6 years of Being Out Experience i wanna clarify some things for you.
nobody is forcing you to be attracted to anyone
nobody is saying that if you aren’t attracted to [insert a trans woman name], you’re automatically transphobic and a terf. nobody is saying you have to have sex with trans girls if you aren’t attracted to them. just as nobody is saying you have to be attracted to every cis woman. and nobody is saying you have to have sex with gay girls you aren’t attracted to.
we are only asking you to respect trans women as women
and that’s really the least you could do! trans women (trans lesbians and wlw in particular) are just other girls out here trying to survive in this hetero world. and it’s hard being a lesbian already – but being a trans lesbian is so much harder. don’t make these girls feel even more alienated, don’t contribute to the hate that is turned against them.
“but i don’t wanna have sex with someone with a penis”
if you end up never sleeping with anyone w a penis, that’s okay. being a lesbian isn’t just about who you have sex with. it’s also about who you love, who you’re attracted to and who you date. and one day you might find yourself falling in love with a trans girl.
if that happens, just like in any relationship, you can negotiate your limits in sex. there’s no point in saying “i am not attracted to trans women” – because it makes it seem like trans women are inherently so much different from cis women, makes you sound like you think all trans women look/are the same and like you think of women as walking genitals. which is pretty misogynist!
so please just don’t listen to terfs. protect your trans sisters because they need it and they will always be there to support you if you support them too.
Honestly the best piece of advice I can give to younger girls trying to figure life out is to completely ignore men. I’m not being quirky or cute when I say that, I mean it seriously. Ignore men’s judgments of you, ignore their insincere compliments, ignore their half-assed romance. Focus on developing yourself. Practice your art, play sports, do theater, volunteer, spend time with your friends, but do not put substantial effort into pleasing men. They’ll be there for you to pursue when the time comes and if you want to. But nothing will waste your youth more than fighting for male acceptance.
Yall thinking Trump’s run for the presidency is over the same way yall thought Brexit wouldn’t happen. Yall gon stay yall lazy asses home on November 8th and wake up to a nightmare on the 9th.
As a Brit, EXACTLY THIS. People thought Brexit wouldn’t happen, so they either stayed home or they voted for Brexit to protest while thinking they were still safe and would stay in the EU. And now we’re leaving Europe, our currency is worth less and less all the time, stuff is already getting more and more expensive here and hate crime rates are exploding.
You CANNOT count on ANYTHING in an election. Trump is not out of the race until Hillary Clinton is voted President. You HAVE to vote. Don’t protest vote, don’t third party vote, don’t stay at home. We screwed up here in Britain – you don’t have to.
This is happening in America & no-one seems to give a shit.
#outraged #NoDAPL#SignalBoost
Horrific this is happening, horrific the mainstream press are ignoring it, horrific the highest levels of government do nothing.
A journalist was arrested just for reporting on it – and look at these people, being treated like they don’t matter. History just keeps repeating itself.
Most of the time when we think we’re looking for death, we’re really looking for love.
Terence Crutcher Another one was killed today. Keith Lamont Scott. He was shot dead sitting in his car by a Charlotte Mecklenburg officer while reading a book. So many black lives have been killed, you’d think you were watching the end of a movie. This list is too long.
THIS is what really matters. THIS should go viral.
The moment that baby is born, I’m coming over every day.
Saving Face (2004) dir Alice Wu
Listen to me, my queer younglings, I don’t usually write in gifsets because it is highly damaging to the aesthetic, but this is a very important PSA. This movie is the sadly ignored, unsung hero of all light lesbian romantic comedies, and if you have not watched it, you should do that right now, at this very moment.
Yes, wonderful film, maybe the best of the ‘light lesbian romantic comedies,’, ever, period.
Has all the good tropes: young doctor falls for young dancer she met as a child, challenging mother with her own romantic ups and downs, people making the right choices in the end.
The Doctor Is Out 