Tag: queer issues

yesbothways:

fuckyeskaramel:

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Is there a direct correlation between tired and homophobic?  No.  

Is there a direct correlation between tired and not straight?  Yes.  

For my anons on this – read the above, please.  

They might be tired from one day of it – but we have to deal with it our entire lives.  

It’s exhausting to have one point – calling out the celeb who did the mocking – turn into the ‘shippers’ (wow) being the problem for calling it out in the first place. It starts with their bad manners – to being about ‘our’ bad manners (or, you know, the problem shippers).  I want to say ‘not all queers!’ but you know how that goes.  We all get tarred and feathered with the same brush.  Sound familiar?

It always circles back to us and how our feelings, issues, opinions – us – become invalid in the public eye.  We have to be the bigger people – not them.  

They’re exhausted?  Welcome aboard.  

It’s their table and we’re always reminded that we’re not really welcome – unless, you know, we behave how they like.  And not too many of us at one time.  Send the Designated Queer.  

Anyone up for it?  

unicyclehippo:

im honestly just like furious at the ideas that pervade media & everything that is so layered so im gonna fuck up talking abt it but it’s like this dumb violent cycle that produces maybe two kinds of coming out stories: 1, kid struggles w sexuality, feels shitty abt it, tries hard to be “”“normal”“”, some one is like babe ur valid & everything is healed, & 2, kid comes out & isn’t accepted for it & holds their head high & struggles through it. & like it’s so pervasive it doesn’t give kids a chance to like not be aWare of this shit. not be aware that as queer kids ur gonna have to grovel & beg at least once in ur life for someone to accept u & u know the fuck what??? it’s bullshit. it’s bullshit & i honestly feel like i’ve been punched every time my family says the most minor homophobic shit & then i feel BAD abt that bc im being “”“too sensitive”“” but like it’s not one comment it’s this sharp little reminder that the next time i come face to face w this person, they might know & they might despise me & it unsettles u in a very deep horrifying way bc ur self perception is doubled or cleaved in two bc u are one person who u know & u are one person they know & u have to be so careful all the time w what u project & what u say & it bleeds into our communities w near desperation like we make joking “touch starved” posts but i can’t rmbr the last time someone hugged me who knows that im queer & there’s a difference, there’s an ease abt being hugged by someone who Knows who u are.

& the first coming out story where someone not queer tells them that they’re valid & everything is healed Isn’t Real & u grow up thinking if i can get this one person to tell me im okay, if this person can tell me im valid & all that, then i will be okay & u latch onto all these outside influences to be okay, to be safe & u don’t get to develop that voice inside that is certain abt it. it always depends on an others view of u. & the second kind of coming out where the kid Struggles like congrats mate this cements the fear that gay life is a constant struggle. in a way i think is almost worse, it can sometimes stage this suffering as smth noble, as an “i’ll prove them wrong one day” kind of thing & i hate it i Hate it. ppl don’t have to struggle to be worthy of respect, of being treated well, this shouldn’t be the lesson we are taught!!

anyway that’s a rant it’s stupid it’s all been said before I’ll delete it later im just sad

With @tumblingsnail, please don’t delete.  There is nothing stupid here, just honesty and this kind of insight is what often lacks in discussing these stories. We see these struggles play out online, with discussions about representation, and it is so frustrating and heartbreaking to see the misinformation and doubt and sneer of the crowd that doesn’t care to learn.  

Thanks as always for sharing your thoughts with us. 

queeranarchism:

golbatgender:

sixthhokage1:

If lumping people in with their oppressors is forbidden, then you cannot use LGBT, as it lumps us trans people in with cisgender people, it lumps women in with men, etc.

Maybe learn how intersectionality, demographics, and just plain fucking language work before making such awful arguments for the sake of discourse

It’s also literally a terf argument (they used to say it about the word cis), so…there’s that

Every damn time someone tries to articulate a form of discrimination that specifically effects one group, someone who does not experience that 

form of discrimination will get so pissed about the idea of having any privilege at all that they’ll throw a huge fit going ‘YOU ARE GROUPING ME IN WITH MY OPPRESSORS’. No I’m not. I’m naming one form of oppression you do not have to deal with today. Get over it. 

Though to be honest, this problem is likely to remain as long as identity politics remains so loaded with this weird sort of ‘self esteem based on my identity + love of all people in my identity + hatred of all people with privilege over me’, which makes the idea of being the privileged party so scary that people freak out at the thought of having any privilege at all. 

And the thing is, this is deliberate. It is a way in which liberal identity politics keeps us boxed in, focussing only on our own group at the expense of people we have more in common with. So if our group is trans people, liberal identity politics has us rooting for rich powerful trans people but not for the cis disabled man next door, even though that guy has experiences of oppression that are a lot closer to ours. 

Intersectionality stops us from being totally single-issue focussed and helps us do very necessary work focussing more on subgroups of subgroups. Which is useful but not enough. Alongside intersextionality we need cross-identity Solidarity. And the first thing we need to understand is that when we’re fighting the systems of oppression, we need to group ourselves in with those with a different kind of oppression than us, based on a common desire to not be oppressed. 

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nerdsbianhokie:

algernonmoncrieff:

lesbianthreaddeath:

how come in tv shows and stuff lesbian couples are always two femme white girls, one blonde and the other brunette like why always those two hair colors

theory: all lesbians across all of television are just reincarnations of the same two girls who keep dying

Yes, it’s true and yes it’s grown from the racism of white male showrunners and the ignorance of viewers.  

Might be worth noting, though, at least one of X/G’s known lives were an older Indian woman and a younger Indian man (a dialogue about racism in the show was around even then).

Here’s hoping the basic problems with these soulmates (the scarcity of POC versions) is tackled with the Xena reboot.  No reason either has to be a brunette or a blonde or white, except to further a damaging trope.  And what would be wrong if Xena or Gabrielle or any other characters in the series were trans? 

The reboot has the potential to break a lot of barriers. I hope the production team (should they get a green light) is up for it.  

As for all their alt-universe versions, very happy they exist(ed), hope future versions reveal better representation.  

gatikmaverick:

I’m the asexual who was sent to conversion therapy as a young teen.

I’m the asexual who thought they were messed up, and broken, and all alone.

I’m the asexual who was told by people who I thought were my friends that God didn’t approve of my ‘alternative’ lifestyle.

I’m the asexual who felt lost in the clothing isles because I didn’t want to look ‘sexy’.

I’m the asexual that struggles with depression, fear, and inadequacy.

I’m the asexual that is being blocked off from resources. Or that you want out of the LGBTQ+ community.

I’m the asexual who is being negatively affected by the ace discourse.

I’m the asexual facing erasure, invalidation, and hate.

Please consider this.

Aphobia exists.

If you don’t believe it does then you may very well be contributing to it.

Please think of the people you are effecting.

Be kind.

Be compassionate.

Please.